How To Get Your Ex Husband Back

Nothing is worse than losing someone you love, expect maybe knowing that the whole thing was a big mistake. If you find that you regret your divorce and you want to know how to get your ex husband back, this article may be able to point you in the right direction.

First things first, though. You have to be totally honest with yourself here, why do you want to get your ex back? Are you just lonely and scared to be on your own? If you are, that is totally normal and natural but it isn't a good reason to get back in a relationship that didn't work the first time around.

Are you jealous that your ex is dating? Again, a perfectly normal response but not a reason to reconcile. It's very, very important that you're honest about this issue because if you aren't and the two of you do get back together it will probably be just as miserable, maybe more so, than the first time around.

If there was any type of abuse such as physical, sexual, or verbal you absolutely should not consider getting back with your ex until he has committed himself to going to counseling and getting help.

1. If none of the above reasons or issues are there and you're sure you and your ex have a good shot at making things work this time, than the first thing you need to do is assess what the major problems in the relationship really were. I'll give you a hint, the two of you most likely didn't split up because you buy too many shoes or he left the seat up. These are the things people squabble about because they're frustrated about something else. For some reason it's easier to fight about this stupid stuff rather than face the real issues.

2. If you don't want to repeat the mistakes of the past, you owe it to yourself and your ex to try and find the underlying problems and fix them. To do that you'll need to be able to have an open and honest talk with your ex. It's vitally important that you are both on the same page. Just one person can't keep a relationship together or put and old one back together, it has to be a joint effort.

3. If your ex is on board with trying to reconcile your next step may be to find a good counselor who can moderate the issues the two of you have. It's very common for couples to fall into bad habits when it comes to communicating. These habits can be hard to overcome and that's where a good counselor can help. They can gently steer you in the direction you need to go so that you can face some issues head on. They can also act as a referee to keep the two of you calm when discussing these emotional issues.

Following these three steps on how to get your ex husband back will be a great starting point. The bottom line is that if you want to get back with your ex, and he is willing to try, you will have to be willing to invest the time an energy in order for it to work. If you do the two of you might just have a better relationship the second time around!